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It doesn't always go your way.

Listen, if there is one that I have learned in this short life of mine it is that things do NOT always got your way.  Not even most of the time. That is just something that you will have to make peace with.  

I have learned to just control what I can control and a lot of the time I cannot control the results.  I have influence in the results but do not control them. Let me give you an example.

one arm push up

Photo by Brodie Vissers from Burst

So about 2.5 years ago, I decided that I was going to get serious about working out in the gym, until COVID ruined that. I couldn't directly control my body recomposition, how much muscle I would gain, how much weight I would lose, or how much weight I could lift.  There were only a few things I actually could control:

  1. Workout frequency 
  2. Workout intensity
  3. Workout program
  4. Diet
  5. Supplementation

In other words all that I could really control was the activities that I would engage in. I could control how often I worked out.  I could control how intense the workout was, and the amount of supplementation I did. So while I have no direct control over the results that I get. I can influence those results by my activity.


Photo by Sara Williams from Burst

In the same way, I have no actual control on the number of sales my businesses generates.  But what I can control is the visibility of the website, how much I advertise, how many emails I send, and how many times I post on social media.  I can also control the quality of the all of those things.  I can control the quality of the designs, the branding, the imagery.  And all those things may lead to sales but I can't actually control who will buy and who won't.

It really is the same for all of us if we stopped to think about it.  You have control over all the inputs but there are a great outputs that you can influence but not control.  The student in school can control the quality of work that they turn in but they can't directly control what the teacher or professor will give them for that work. There have been times where I have turned in work that I thought was magnificent only to get a B or C because it wasn't what they were "looking for."

So since the only thing ultimately you can control is the inputs, the activity, we have to do the things that we can do.  We have to do them with consistency, with boldness, and with conviction. Still, that doesn't always mean it will work out the way you intended. It could be worse but it could also be better. 



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