Respect is Mutual
"Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is probably the reason why so few engage in it." - Henry Ford
Think about this for just a moment. What if no matter what you did you could not get a breakthrough in the area of finances. I used to think you had to have a special talent to be good with money, I was wrong. Money is not some whimsical thing but a specific unit of measure with specific rules for how it works on the earth. This is the real reason why "The rich get richer and the rest just keep on strugglin'." It is because some know the rules and some don't. It is a sad state of affairs that most don't know that there are specific activities you can do or things you can learn to earn more, invest more, tithe more and give more to charity. Now I understand that money is not everything, but it sure seems like it when you don't have any. LOL.
One of the biggest things that I have been taught about wealthy folks as opposed to the middle class and the poor is that they are not as emotional about money. That doesn't mean they don't have an emotion just not as much as the 97%. They also understand and treat money as a tool. With hand tools there are a specific set of instructions and warning labels on how not to use it. It is the same way with money, there are specific sets of instructions. If you don't know the rules you can never win the game.
Some of the rules are the same rules that you have for other people or someone else's things. You wouldn't throw trash everywhere in somebody's home because it is disrespectful. You wouldn't allow people back in your house that disrespected it. Would you hang around people that did not respect you? Probably not for long. We have learned principle to respect other people and other peoples things but not how to respect our finances. I am learning from my mentors and coaches that money is to be respected as well or it will flee from you rather than come to you.
So how would you show that you respect your money? Well lets apply some things you already know. You know you should keep your house decent and in order so why not start by keeping your purse or wallet decent and in order. Now it is not about keeping your money in order, it is more about the mindset that you develop that makes you a person who keeps their money in order.
Also your clothes have a proper place. You wouldn't put your pant suit, or a 3 piece suit for you gentleman, in the floor or in the drawer. You would hang it up. So it is for your money, it should be where it belongs. Whether that is in your wallet or in the bank. Nothing worse then having to pay for something only to remember that your money is in the car or having to dig all the way through your purse.
Now it isn't really about the money at all. It is about the attitude toward the money.
What are some things that most folks have been taught? Well as a child I heard that "Money doesn't buy you happiness.", "Money isn't everything." and "Money is the root of all evil."
While it is true that money doesn't buy you happiness, it is equally true of poverty and lack. Being broke doesn't buy you happiness either. If I had my choice of broke and miserable and wealthy and miserable I would take wealthy.
No money isn't everything but it is when you don’t have any. When you are totally broke every minute decision you make is based on whether or not you can afford it. You read the menu from right to left, seeing what you wanna eat based on cost instead of just getting what you want. You stay in the house more and more so that you don't spend any money.
The truth is that money is not the root of all evil. The LOVE of money is. The reason for that is because where your treasure is you heart is there also. I read that somewhere...
Maybe someone needs to give you permission to change your mind about what you believe about money. Shake off those misconceptions and learn how it really works. Find someone who has made it work in the way you want it to and learn. Find a book that can teach you the rules to money. What ever you do, do something. Unless what you have been doing has been working.
It's time to think, it's time to dream, it's time to live.